Foster Mama Drama

Why is it that we always get the foster mother from hell kids? Right now our newest placements former foster mother has been blowing up the lines of every agency she can think of to get D placed back in their home. Why? Because they made a hasty decision and regret that they demanded he be removed at once. They had a few days to go out of town and relax and realized that they missed him is my guess.

The problem is that they made a huge deal about needing him gone emergently, which caused a major panic and mad dash to get him placed, ultimately with us. Which of course ruffled some feathers at the Agency. CPS has questioned why he can't go back on one hand, and on the other, wants him to stay with us because of the permanency goals. If by chance Mom can't work her plan, then us being willing to adopt,over them being not able to adopt,ultimately puts us as a better choice of current placement to avoid disrupting him too much or again. He's been with us for two weeks now and he's starting to settle in and play and coo, and not just scream his head off.

I hope it comes down to CPS sticking with the recommendations of the Agency that he stay put. Of course Mom has been calling the old foster mother ALOT, but I think it's just because she doesn't know us yet and is used to her, although the old foster father stated that we should stay as far away from the parents as possible, NOT that I want her to call us ALOT, but the point is, she needs to just move forward and just work her plan to get her baby back. This little guy has a ton of stuff going on, a ton of appointments and will be a busy busy guy and needs everyone to focus on his needs... PERIOD.

Actual visits start this week. Besides doctors appointments they will be getting twice a week visits for 4 hours. We do not have to stay at those, it'll be interesting how they can manage all of it, but honestly I would hope that they can, and can take care of him. I of course would keep him, and am totally in love with the little guy, but I know he's a foster placement at the same time.

This baby fostering is TOUGH!

Two by two

Two diaper bags, two strollers, two car seats, and two feeding pumps... an outing to my mothers house for dinner... This used to be a lot easier.

Things are surely changed in our lives. No longer can we just "go" somewhere when we want. We need sitters. I may have to rethink this ;-)

I have no idea

How there are some people that just take infants. This is hard work. Perhaps if I were the stay at home parent, but as the working parent it's pretty rough. You know how us moms just don't think the dads can do it as good as we can or how we can. With D Baby it's pretty hard because he also has a ton of medical issues, but more importantly he is a crier.

Yesterday CPS came and said that this could be a long term placement to about a year or so. So we shall see I guess

D Baby

Is the cutest little guy. It's crazy sad to think of him going home or even to another adoptive placement. Of course I have ZERO background information on this case yet. Except to say that he has been dealt quite the hand genetically.

He has quite the ordeal to overcome, right now we are just working on holding down his feeds, controlling acid production, and setting the rate for which his feeding should actually run. With him its been a fine line of not to over fill him and cause him to spit up, and to not under fill him so that he's screaming hungry. It's a process of hit or miss for sure.

Little Miss E is having huge issues with sharing time with her new baby brother, she does not want to hear him cry, or else she cries, and she certainly does not want Daddy or Mommy to bring him into her room.

Between the two of them hubby and I have spent quite a lot of time at doctor's appointments and it does not seem like those are going to let up anytime soon either.