And then she asked me for money...

It was only $60 but it's a precedent that I don't want to set. Can you wire it to me? I need it to go shopping for stuff for the new baby. The people I am staying with are going to the store right now. $60 is an arbitrary number for getting baby stuff, when we told her we have a swing, a bassinet, a ton of clothes and newborn diapers for her. I'm thinking it was for another reason. But incase you didn't know, I don't give money. I'll give you stuff. I'll buy you diapers or formula, but I don't give money. You hold up a sign and ask for money for food. I'll give you a sandwich. I don't give money. My nieces ( my brothers girls) are the begging for handout types. They learned the same thing, I don't give money. I give my time. I share my home. I offer advise. But unless I gave birth to you or adopted you...or you gave birth to me, I don't give money.

A mothers greatest sacrifice

Today Spuds birth mother asked us if we would be willing to adopt him.

Sitting down to budget

The time is getting close to make some huge decisions for our family. To close our foster license or keep it open. To take more children after our adoptions of D and S are final or not. Spud is still here of course and it doesn't look like he's going anywhere soon, but he also has a sibling coming which we really can't take in. Which brings us to. We really can't bring in anymore children because D is very high needs and requires a lot of attention. Emily has a lot of additional therapies coming up as does S. Spud is so far behind that he needs more time. If I were home it'd be different, but hubby has a lower threshold than I do of course.

So thus it brings us to budget. The house and it's up keep are very pricey. Hubby thinks if there is money in the bank he should spend it. Having more kids requires help, help cost money. So a budget meeting is for sure in order.

Big decisions on the horizon.

Final adoption paperwork in

Well sent and received the final adoption paperwork needed for the new homestudy to be filed. It took so long because I have a major issue with procrastination and we both needed our physicals. Now I just have to fill in the subsidy packet for S and collect the last few remaining doctor forms for the kids. The problem is that there are two different workers, but we were told they are joining offices so Ds worker will be coordinating with Ss worker to see about getting a combo adoption date! I'll take two different I don't care I just want to make them mine.

Spuds update

Just keeps getting bigger yet is still just a newborn love bug. We've had some huge doctor appointments lately to include Neurology who has mentioned CP as in cerebral palsy as a possibility. Birth mom was at that appointment, she hasn't returned her parent aides phone call for visits since that day. She tends to do this a lot, disappear and reappear and follow her plan. This is not an unusl pattern in the world of foster care though. The problem is that she's due to have another baby next month. CPS is considering taking it, but I think the issue with Spud is that he's fragile, medical, and not going to be the portable baby she wants that she can show off.
I think we are back on the path to relinquish or severance for him. I wonder if new baby brother comes if it'll make a difference?