We spoke with the lawyer today. It helped that we'd used her previous as they already had our information. She'll send us the fee agreement to sign and she said she'd contact the adoptions worker by email today. I also spoke with the adoptions worker today and she filed her part and is expecting the email.
Today we had to officially give the "new" names for the kids. We only changed middle and last names. But it's the last names that are most important anyway!
Monday, December 28, 2015
Sunday, December 27, 2015
Best Christmas present...
Arrived in the mail on December 26th. We are officially adoption certified. Tomorrow we call the lawyer to get the petition ready to file to get our court date to adopt D and S!!
M won't be free until after March at the earliest, but we have till the end of August 2017 on this certificate or something like that.
Finally finally finally.... Of course now we wait more :-( Longest "pregnancy" ever.
M won't be free until after March at the earliest, but we have till the end of August 2017 on this certificate or something like that.
Finally finally finally.... Of course now we wait more :-( Longest "pregnancy" ever.
Sunday, December 20, 2015
Thursday, December 10, 2015
Sometimes I feel like I'm chasing my tail
No love it when doctors listen to me and know that I know what I'm talking about. I don't like it when they are more apt to brush off my concerns and I especially hate playing phone tag with a specialist. The insurance nightmare is freaking ridiculous. If the medication is order pay for the freaking thing. If you already see my child, except at a different clinic, where you won't be for a few months, then why do I need a new referral to see you?
Are puss draining eyes and ears and a lump in the sinus not important enough to you? We've been through two different rounds of antibiotics. No change. I'm think X-ray at minimum, ct at maximum.... What the heck is in there? I could go to the ER but he's not feverish nor acting sick... I don't want him to get something from being there. But seriously... It's his only eye!
Are puss draining eyes and ears and a lump in the sinus not important enough to you? We've been through two different rounds of antibiotics. No change. I'm think X-ray at minimum, ct at maximum.... What the heck is in there? I could go to the ER but he's not feverish nor acting sick... I don't want him to get something from being there. But seriously... It's his only eye!
Wednesday, December 9, 2015
Knowing your limits
In foster care knowing your limits is sometimes hard to accomplish. People keep telling me " you can't save them all." Which I am not trying to do. I'm not saving anyone. But I am a mom and I do mom things. Like want to take care of those that need it. I am not superwoman and hubby is not superman. His superdad cape does not extend to newborn babies. 4 was too many. Too little sleep and jealous toddlers do not make for a happy home.
We said no more babies after Spud came. We should have stuck to that. So what does this all mean?
We asked to have Baby J moved. Our agency wouldn't or couldn't get us an ammendment and I was not onboard to provide care without pay. I'm not a free babysitter, no mater what CPS or BM may think. Having the baby meant I couldn't work at all... I need to work at least part time. I like money :-)
We said no more babies after Spud came. We should have stuck to that. So what does this all mean?
We asked to have Baby J moved. Our agency wouldn't or couldn't get us an ammendment and I was not onboard to provide care without pay. I'm not a free babysitter, no mater what CPS or BM may think. Having the baby meant I couldn't work at all... I need to work at least part time. I like money :-)
Friday, December 4, 2015
We are tired
No sleep in this house. Baby J is a night owl. Unfortunately he has to move to another foster home because our agency sucks and is additionally stupid under new management and we can't get an Ammendment for the sibling. So yeah there's that. I'm ok with it in a sense that seriously I'm tired and we said no more babies. I'm pissed because our agency has law interpretation issues and I'm not confident in their abilities to keep their heads out of their asses. So yeah... New agency search is on.
Tuesday, December 1, 2015
Team Decision Meeting
It's the first step when a kid comes into care. We had that yesterday and Baby J will be staying with us a little longer. Maybe a month only depending on how fast BM can get housing that is safe. I sure hope she gets it soon. I miss sleep.
I have an interview for a teaching position on Thursday. I am thinking it won't come to fruition because new baby = no time for work. Heck the other three equal no time for work. But I think I would love the opportunity just the same.
D has had an ear infection going on three weeks now. We have started another new antibiotic. I'm hoping this one works as the next option is injectable or infusion. I refuse to allow them to give the injectable version and thus he'd end up admitted for Iv course instead. He already had tubes... Do we have check with the ENT to see about the next steps to preventing it.
S is growing and developing so fast. She doesn't speak yet, she actually screams in her monotone scream for her wants and needs. We are working on trying to get her some sort of vocabulary. Chronologically she's about to turn 18 months but actually she's 14 months. Which means she should be talking at least a little. She's crawling and sitting. She's thought about pulling to stand but she's afraid to fall. She walks while holding your fingers and in the walker. She does not cruise furniture yet, mostly for the same reason she doesn't pull to stand, she's afraid to fall. She had lots of fears. She is still not eating food. But she is tasting and swallowing bites I actually catch her off guard with.
Spud is a mystery still. Now they are worried about vision loss but that appointment isn't till January. We are still in Neuro testing mode. So far he's failed many tests. No definitive diagnosis yet, but spastic cerebral palsy is in the lead. He got his helmet for fixing the flat part of his head and we decorated it with some r2d2 stickers. His BM has admitted in court to het desire to relinquish rights to him because his needs are just too great for her.
We are still awaiting our adoption certification from the courts so that we can get an adoption date for at minimum D and S.
I have an interview for a teaching position on Thursday. I am thinking it won't come to fruition because new baby = no time for work. Heck the other three equal no time for work. But I think I would love the opportunity just the same.
D has had an ear infection going on three weeks now. We have started another new antibiotic. I'm hoping this one works as the next option is injectable or infusion. I refuse to allow them to give the injectable version and thus he'd end up admitted for Iv course instead. He already had tubes... Do we have check with the ENT to see about the next steps to preventing it.
S is growing and developing so fast. She doesn't speak yet, she actually screams in her monotone scream for her wants and needs. We are working on trying to get her some sort of vocabulary. Chronologically she's about to turn 18 months but actually she's 14 months. Which means she should be talking at least a little. She's crawling and sitting. She's thought about pulling to stand but she's afraid to fall. She walks while holding your fingers and in the walker. She does not cruise furniture yet, mostly for the same reason she doesn't pull to stand, she's afraid to fall. She had lots of fears. She is still not eating food. But she is tasting and swallowing bites I actually catch her off guard with.
Spud is a mystery still. Now they are worried about vision loss but that appointment isn't till January. We are still in Neuro testing mode. So far he's failed many tests. No definitive diagnosis yet, but spastic cerebral palsy is in the lead. He got his helmet for fixing the flat part of his head and we decorated it with some r2d2 stickers. His BM has admitted in court to het desire to relinquish rights to him because his needs are just too great for her.
We are still awaiting our adoption certification from the courts so that we can get an adoption date for at minimum D and S.
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