In December...

The magic number will be 1... as in we will actually have three one year old in the house! Can you imagine and they are not even related. At one point in time when I was taking fertility medications I thought, wow we could have multiple birth taking this... never did I think that I'd have this route to parenthood. Its hard, but it's worth it all at the same time.

D's adoption packet came and is nearing completion. We have a lot of doctors to contact to get their portion filled out. Tomorrow I have to email the adoption worker and make sure that she emailed our referral to the Homestudy coordinator at the other agency, as that is the only thing that we are waiting for to get done. Once we have that we can get an adoption date. To say I am antsy is an understatement... I want him mine now!

So as promissed her is a bit about what is going on with S. There is court on Wednesday... her birth father, the only parent who's been "in" the picture in a year, had requested visits and custody at the last court hearing. He hadn't seen her or tried to see her since February. So we set up with the Case Manager the dates that we could do a visit. We couldn't get into the Visiting Center because they changed their rules. He doesn't have a parent aide, because he lost that right in March. So next best thing, she had three upcoming doctor appointments. He could attend those. Of course if he really wants to parent her he needs to attend and make sure that he can get to doctor's appointments. He has no car, he has no home. So Case Manager gave him a bus pass for the close appointments and sent a cab for him for the farther appointment. He showed up late and missed the doctor appointment for the first one and spent less than 15 minutes "with" her. He asked a few questions, bought her a teddy bear and looked at her three or four times. Hubby then explained to him the importance of her doctor appointments and getting there on time and a little about exactly what is going on with her and her needs. Second appointment, no show. Third appointment, the cab went to the address that he gave the Case Manager at the last court appearance and guess who they can't find? Severance trial is on Wednesday.... please please please do this kid a favor dude and stay the heck in your crack den!

Spud

So Spud is 8 months old... still acts like a two month old. Has become very vocal and has even started taking a bottle now and then. The bottle part is a battle as he does the gagging thing that S did, S is still not eating (her post to come). He sleeps in his own room now, which is decorated with a Monkey theme.
Anyway Spud is in fact going to be a big brother. Spud's Mom on the other hand is doing everything she can to get him back... oh wait, yeah she just says she is. Two visits totalling 40 minutes...since May. Yeah since May. She has missed her intake for a Parent Aide (meaning more visits) twice, no call no shows. She over sleeps or my favorite, "Oh I should really start keeping track of his appointments now." I'd say I was surprised but I am not. I know its early in the case so I am still hopeful that maybe she will get her crap together... but as the new baby's birth gets closer I find it harder and harder to believe that it will.

He does have a CASA worker now, which is just someone who sees him and tries to work with him and his mother to give them extra support. Its supposed to be a best interest of the baby and only the baby person. She comes and acts like a Grandma... it's cool. I ask her to come during his cranky, please just hold me and only me time.

Now I Know

So sorry. I don't post more on here. I do this mainly for me as a reminder of where we were and how our story unfolds. The problem is that I don't get much time to sit down at the computer and the i products just suck for blog posts.

So much is going on.... I usually think I should blog about this or that, but never manage to get over to the computer.

Emily is about to start kindergarten. She had her second arm lengthening surgery. Her day nurse she's had for two years may not be her day nurse anymore. The school mentioned contracting with another agency, but no way in hell am I just going to let some random nurse just "take her" and not know anything about her. Nursing needs care plans and orders and needs report in order to carefor a child with medical needs like a trach, frequent suctioning, temper tantrums that turn her lie and freak people out, the cast on her arm, her proclivity for shutting down with new people, biting her lip and making it bleed when she's anxious.... The list goes on and on....

Big things

Today we received the adoption packet for D. We are hoping to get a court date within the next 4 months. All depends on how fast they can get our homestudy completed, good thing we just renewed our foster license so that way they can get everything from there. Hoping that will have everything they need to prove and they can just submit to the courts within a few weeks. The worker said that she'd had some come back after three weeks and some come back past the 60 days.... fingers crossed!

Quick update

As I don't have a ton of time... I'm being beckoned in the back ground to the sounds of my 18 month old..."Mummumma...Mummumma..." :-) Anyway today was court for two kiddos. Mr D who was finally set free, pending the 15 day appeal-which will be denied, and Miss S, which ended in trial dates confirmed because delusional biodad reappears after 6 months to request visits and custody and to contest the severance.

Trial is Aug 12th... so at least there is that. Now we just have to update our adoption homestudy and get this going to make Mr. D an offical member of our family!!!

I seriously almost cried when I heard the words severed. Its been such a long emotional journey.

Too little to be big

Spud who is not even 7 months old apparently will hold the title of big brother in what appears to be 4-5 months.... According to BM page and obvious baby bump... She reports to be able to tell gender of said bump in a week or so.


SMH

Sorry so long since my last update

but there have been a lot of things going on... not all of them good... so I will update soon... we do have some good things in the works...