Short timer

Miss A was here 4 nights. Our shortest visitor yet and coincidentally the shortest time between going on the open beds list and getting a call for a placement, two hours.

She was adorable,3, and would have been a perfect fit for our current family dynamic.

But alas such is the burden of foster care, they needed an actual case to remove the child, which they did not have. Glad for her that the system actually worked the way it is supposed to and hoping the family learned from their wake up call. But then again....I'm not even sure they didn anything wrong, beyond not agreeing with the opinion of a doctor.

Ps soooo glad I was able to talk my hubby out of running right down to the store and buying another crib when she came....let me tell you that was a hard sell for him, he loves to shop. But I just had a feeling about this case.

How fast do things change around here?

Things happen here daily that change the course of things or that surprise yet don't surprise you. DCS (CPS) visits happened today. S's case worker was first. Court is May 1. At last court date Dad said he did not want to be a party to the case and wanted to sign rights away... so he called yesterday and said he'd changed his mind. DCS said he has to now wait till court date to have judge order services again, course they think that he's just a drop in and really only wants the right to see her once in awhile. So continuing on, ya just never know with foster care until you get your severance and adoption date.

D's biomom was doing very well. Nearly finished with Rehab, learning to care for him, and visiting regularly on Saturdays, of course she forgot a few times, but still came. Today we received a call that she is AWOL from Rehab. So now she can no longer visit at our house and she has to start all over again if she tests positive. Is it freaking January yet?

Movements

So Mr C has found another placement better suited to his needs. Unfortunately it's another group home, but truthfully it's where he feels more comfortable and honestly his future adoptive home is very group home similar so it'll fit him.

I'm sad and conflicted as I wish it had worked out, but I know it's for the best on all fronts.

He leaves on Saturday.

I think we should either say status quo for the summer... Or only agree to another baby as a next placement. So time will tell I guess.

12-14 Reasons Why...

We may not get to adopt S afterall. Today I found out she has 12-14 other siblings. She's Mom's 10th pregnancy and Dad has 4 other children. Apparently BM has children in groups and her family is raising those other 7-9 children. She does not have any of them. There is no doubt that the case is going to go to and achieve severance. BM's last severance was a year ago. However, the tricky part is that there are siblings and family that could come forward to claim her. The saving grace is that she is high medical needs and not just anyone can pop up and become an acceptable placement family or not, but it is more likely of course.

Now 1 set of siblings lives with Maternal grandma.... BM is older than me... those children are 12-14. The other set lives with Paternal Aunt, not biodad of Miss S, the youngest of which is 5.

The of course biodad, those who has agreed to sign his rights away, still has family that could request to be placed with the baby.

So there's that to consider now as we move towards April and then June. We have to have another whole adoption home study and everything done since ours has expired now too.

Case Updates

Today was court for D and the biodad's rights were severed. Next court date for trial for severance for mom,...January! Seriously. April pretrial for Miss S, but if the AG files the paper correctly, and if bioday signs and biomom doesn't show... we could be adopting her sooner than D... if we get to adopt D at all by that point, a lot can happen in what 9 months! Next week we will have gad him for 1 year. Technically Miss S needs to be with us for 6 months before we could get an adoption date for her, which will be in June.

We have asked to have Mr C moved, but he's still here. His school is driving me nuts. The kid has gained a lot of weight and finding clothes to fit a short fat kid is hard. I think the school is over feeding him too.

Emily is in the PICU again this time with RSV and some how Strep, which hubby and I both have as well Everyone else has boogers :-)

Not expected, but kinda expected

Yesterday the CM for Miss Baby S came and said that in April they are moving to severance and that the biodad states he is not contesting, biomom is still mia, so they have her as abandoned. They asked if we wanted to be her adoptive placement. Of course we said yes.

Next week is the pre-trial for severance for Mr. D, his Biomom is contesting, so doesn't look like this will go well. Of course she is doing the bare minimum she has to, I really hope the judges see through her bs and see that his needs and best interests are not with her, heck two weeks in a row she forgot to confirm her visit with her parent aide, who she has to confirm with or there is no visit, because she just had so many things on her mind,aka she forgot all about her son.

Just doesn't mix

With us we have realized you just can not mix a teenager with babies.... especially if you are starting all over in the parenting game. Most especially if that teenager has Bipolar and PTSD diagnosis you are just now learning about!

Seriously, I'd rather take another drug weaning baby than a teenager with behaviors and a cognitive delay.

Officially gave the request to have him moved... course they now have 30 days to do so... so another month of this utter stress!