Spud update

Today was court for Spud and his BMs rights were terminated. Next step is the April 15th court date for the absentee BF. After which the case will move over to adoption. We have his packet and have started the medical paperwork aspect.

Trying hard to decide what to do.

To close our foster license or not. To move forward with the next steps with the girls or not. Honestly deep down I think that our plate to full to the brim and despite having help, me returning to work full time will just be too much for hubby if we added more children, even ones who can do most of the care themselves. It's a lot of work for someone who still can't figure out that "playing" with the baby does not include him sitting on the couch next to you fussing while you are on your phone reading Facebook. Despite popular belief, he is NOT a person who can multi task. Mr D requires a lot of attention, since his vocabulary requires you to actually see him to understand it. SPD (sensory processing disorder) children and those with visual impairment require more help with transitions.

To top it off D is mobile, S is mobile, and now Spud is becoming mobile as he has finally started to roll. Emily is bearing weight in her legs and gets around pretty dang good now in her gait trainer. Miss S is walking without holding hands if we use her harness and once she gets over her fear she will be running all over soon.

House hunting is stalled do to lender qualifying issues as the things they told hubby to do to "fix" his credit actually tanked his score. So now that mine is well over 100 points higher than when I started so now we would have had everything we needed, we are scrambling again. Bad news is we found the perfect house. Because we had been told we only needed my score higher by 18 points (they never thought it would climb 100) I actually looked at a house, and it was perfect and affordable. Go figures right?

Document gatherings

Sux that is all

Adoption Date

March 21st

Tentative plansish

I received a tentative job offer yesterday. Shift supervisor, big career deal with my ultimate career goals in mind. Yeah I still technically have a career goal, sometimes I wonder though because parenting has taken top position again.

Anyway, like I mentioned we'd been approached about the girls. We currently have 4 other kids and we are moving. Financing is in limbo until my credit card reports correctly, but anyway we are only about a month or so from technically finalizing a purchase if the houses I want are available at the time we can offer. I'll find out next week.

My point... Is this a good idea? The job is Monday through Friday 2-10. Prime family time. Nanny is a must. Good thing, I wouldn't have to pay out of pocket because the kids actually have alternate funding for This expense. From 4-8p would be ideal. We'd have a nurse for Emilyso she'd be covered but hubby would have another set of hands.

Emily and Semira (yes I finally outted her) would benefit from the girls as well as I think the girls would benefit from Emily and Semira.

But 6 kids and a full time job? Can you, can I, can we do it?

I'm so babbling because I don't even have a realist concept of this. But I do know that our hearts, our cars, and our homes are more than willing to open. But selfishly I all of a sudden think no.

You know how you should never say never...

Probably won't be a popular decision with some family members, but we did decide to discuss taking two sisters as adoptive placements. It's just an initial meet and greet situation and it doesn't really change much yet, but we were asked again. We'd been approached about them before but we were full. We are about to have two empty beds so we were contacted and hubby and I agreed to consider it. I know we said we were done, but why do these two little girls keep coming to us?

Two week wait?

According to people... After the petition to adopt has been filed it takes about two weeks to get the finalization date.

The petition was filed to the court on February 2nd