The Final countdown

We were excited that school was starting, only to find out that the oldest one is NOT able to start school with the other two due to an issue with special education requirements. Not good. She being the one we really need the break from. The school denied admission to her based on her needs. So alternate locations are being sought to see if they can accommodate all 3. This should be reconciled soon! I feel bad for her since she is feeling so left out. She really wanted to go back to that school. Had they stayed here I would have just put them all in the local public Elementary school down the street. They have a great special education department in this district which is good for us in the future too.

Today they see the judge. Hopefully she see's it our way and that the girls would not benefit from a drawn out transition home. They just do not do good with the unknown and need concrete plans. New situations add more anxiety for the littles but it adds more anxiety to draw it out verses making it quick for the big one. Plus selfishly, I really need them to go home already. The oldest and I (and Frank) do not gel and I just can not take it anymore. Everyday there is more acting out, more of doing the same things over and over, now we have added, "well at my Mom and Dads house we could do that." I really wanted to say that, "yes you could, but that is why you were in foster care because those things are not safe." But really what's the point of engaging the behavior, it's what she really wants anyway. It sure has been great practice for, "what not to do in the future".

There are still concerns with the "situation" because one parent is still pretty much not there yet and probably won't be. The youngest had a panic attack at the idea of not being in the same class as her sister. The sympathy she got,
"... stop crying you'll mess up your bow." The girls had to be deprogrammed at the concept of everything having to be perfect throughout their foster care stay, let's just say that the "Mommy Dearest" concept is alive and thriving in some families still.

My adoption worker/placement worker is following up on the status today of our submissions to see if there has been any movement in them or not. We also should be starting the CDH training soon. But, either way, we are ready for the next phase, whether it be other children, or those children, we are just ready for different children.

Reset and begin again, hopefully we have learned somethings that we won't repeat this time. Hopefully *wink*