How do you chose between your children?

Ok so good news... she is ours they took less than 10 minutes to decide... bad news we would not be able to accept any new placements for 6 months after she comes.

Good news is the boys are also ours also and the red file meetings, as I expected are simply a formality, So the boys are very bonded to their foster parents and call them Mom & Dad so a longer transition period was expected. But not 6 months long.

So how do you chose between your children? The agency has a few ideas to bypass this, like moving the staffing up for the boys for next week and starting the transition prior to "I" coming home. Then going to the placing agency and saying please don't deny this child a forever home based on an arbitrary rule. Maybe they will split the difference with us and say 3 months?


We are open to waiting 6 months to get the boys... but only once we switch "I" over to a CDH placement. This allows for all fees to be covered and for the beds to remain empty.

URGH!!!!! Decisions Decisions.... once again... how do you chose between your children? Are they already my children? Maybe my heart has decided for me and I didn't even know it!