Paper Pregnant

I heard this term searching a forum on AZ adoption looking for some insight into this "Red File" process. Someone mentioned that they wanted to know if Paper Pregnant was offensive or not.

So then I started thinking about it and realized that this is kinda how I feel. I feel like I am "pregnant" in a way. In the very early stages, first trimester where you know you are expecting a child, but are not sure of the gender, and most especially you are not sure if the "pregnancy" is going to make it to full-term.

So much can happen with this process, we can still not be chosen. Which in a way still feels like a loss. It's almost as if we are pregnant with triplets. We could go from expecting 3 little members to join our family to 1, 2, or zero! Will it be the boys or the girl or both?

The uncertainty and the emotional ups and downs are eerily similar. One minute you are making plans for the rooms, looking at toys, imagining what life will be like, even trying to decide if you will change their names and what names you would change them to if you could. The next minute you are resigned to not having them, to not wanting to think about it at all. Even be scared because you have been thinking that this is way to much to handle, which is probably how expectant parents of multiples, or even those with really young children feel, when the concept of adding little ones into the family already crazy busy happens.

So NO I do not think that "paper pregnant" is offensive. We are waiting on a piece of paper to tell us whether or not our family will expand... like a home pregnancy test tells you.

The months of waiting and the unknown... yeah sounds pretty accurate to me!