I spoke to soon...

Yeah I was wrong, she will try and sabotage the placement. She came right out and said that she is fighting already against our prospective date of Nov 1st to have "I" come to us. She stated she is pushing for her original January date. She threw around technical terms, disruption for example, like she had any clue as to who the hell we were, but stated that since "I" has disrupted from two previous placements when she was a baby, that this would happen now. I don't expect this to be a cake walk, I expect a learning curve for all of us, I do have a TON of knowledgeable resources at my disposal and a great support system with more medical experience at my figertips. But seriously she is not really that complicated of a little girl. With some direction as to her current care, meeting with a few of her doctors and therapists, and getting some quality time in with her to get some bonding done, the planned transition will be MUCH easier than the crap pile of drama and ODD we are living with now.

What will cause us to back out would be 3 empty beds and no foster income for 4 months! She says why don't you fill your beds before she comes, yeah I already thought of that but we can't, because the placing agency said we couldn't (red flag), she also brought up the difference in pay for CDH vs subsidy,(red flag) she brought up that WE are the only interest they have had on her. (red flag)

Why the red flag alerts? Because if we are the only interest that has been made for her and we back out because she presses the longer than usual transition, then she gets to keep her as a long term foster placement (because she is getting bigger and older and very few people want to adopt older special needs kids), thus she gets to keep her and the higher rate of pay at the same time. If we push to have our beds available prior to her coming, will they think that we are not serious about her and rescind the extension of her placement? I drove two hours after working an overnight shift to see her for two hours, to return drive two hours to go to work tonight. I'd say that is committed, I mean heck she is not a complicated little girl at all. She is easy going, just don't do her hair.