That we will have to make again, and again, and again...

Things were a little bumpy today. They started off well, this is the paperwork we already sent you, this is what she qualifies for, yes your worker should make sure you have your CDH completed, you are perfect for her, we'll transition slower she's shy, when?, January.....(insert noise of squealing brakes here) EXCUSE ME!! I must have heard you wrong!

So, I listened asked a lot more questions, then we got to see a video of her, and well she is AMAZING! She talks, she giggles, she is beautiful.

We got to the point where they said, "We usually have you wait 24 hours and then give us an answer, but do you want to move forward?"

At this time I said, " Well I just need to talk to my husband and licensing worker for a second about something."

At which time we expressed that there is NO WAY we will move forward if the transition won't be until January. This is a domestic adoption in the same state, come on now... what gives?

At which time it was expressed that the foster mother was reluctant and wanted to adopt her, but couldn't because there is not enough subsidy and she is "too old" her words not mine. So we said that a slower transition is one thing but almost 5 months is crazy, then you add another 6 months to that, that nearly puts our adoption certification to a point to run out before we can even get a second placement, our foster care license comes up again and thats 9 months with empty beds!

So they did agree to pay for our travel expenses for transition visits to happen more frequently and agreed that our timeline of end of October was very realistic goal and it may be sooner if she seems to be adjusting well... Who is the judge of that really though? But they wanted her to continue to progress and not shut down,

So we went to meet her and her foster mom said she is shy and won't talk or respond to voices she didn't know and won't eat for anyone but foster mom. We'll she talked with us, she played with us, she turned toward me and was even leaning forward for me to hold her, and let me give her a taste of some those fruit pouchy thingies. At one point the foster sister was teasing her about getting her hair brushed and putting the comb to her head to illustrate that the little one just does not like it! Well she did start to pitch a fit and cry and I was able to comfort her and redirect her attention and get her laughing again pretty quick! So... proved them WRONG!

The best part is that it was observed by the adoptions worker at the agency


She has my heart I can tell you that! BTW the picture post is from last Easter... so it's not much different than she actually looks, but yeah she does have a ton of hair!