Placement Hearing for one missed visits for the other.

Turns out N has a placement hearing on Monday to determine if she can go home. :-)

D's Mom did not call to cancel or show up to his visit today. I was going to give her props for making two in a row finally, but guess not, course she was over an hour late to her two hour visit last week, but oh well it is the nature of the beast.

I feel like...

I should have so much more to write. But alas I must have writers block or something. Things are happening here. Exciting things. But just not things that spark..."oh I should write that" Seriously no one really cares but me anyway.

We are getting closer to Miss E being officially adopted. We found a new Nanny who totally reminds me of my mother in law. Miss N's father is causing shit again,this time CPS HAD done their job and was able to back us on it. He is such a f'ing tool. But no such luck that she'd be placed somewhere else, she's still here.

Mr. D is getting a new nursery and yeah we are painting in his room and putting up a chair rail. His new crib set came this week, I have a few more things on order,but it's also neutral enough to just be a boy room,of course my hope is that it remains his room. With that said he's actually still in my room, but if I can get another monitor and video set, I may, might, maybe, let him sleep in there. Pictures to come once completed.

Also with D is that we are going to facilitate a visit with his parents at our home. CPS is hoping that once they get an idea of where he is, it'll be easier for them to agree that, since they state that they can't take care of him, that we'd be the next best option.

Iproducts suck...

And make it hard to blog, but hubby got me a new laptop and now I shall be able to blog more.

Today is a big day and I will find out more information but as of now there isn't much new. They had court for D yesterday, today his CPS worker comes and there is a CFT for him as well. The biomom called hubby yesterday and said she was told she could come and visit the baby whenever she wanted...I was like ummm... NO! So we shall see what CPS actually said, because biggest thing, we do NOT allow family visits in our home unless the child is already severed and adoptable PERIOD. I'm curious as to what the case plan is at this point to. It was adoption by family member but no one has heard from the family member, and the Pediatrician is still saying he will try and block a reunification with the baby and any member of the family, I'm not sure he really has much "say" but it's still a nice gesture. *** update - court went and no changes. CPS came and stated that what she meant was, " If we adopt him then the adoption can be open, and if you ask I am sure they will let you come and visit anytime."***

N is still here, court for her is the 23rd, at which time I hope to hear that both aunt and dad have been trained and she will be ordered home. I won't hold my breath, but I can sure hope. Sometimes there are just situations that you just need to run their courses faster than others.


I may have come to the conclusion that foster care may not be for me... or at the very least not without a fulltime Nanny or a part-time job.

Adoption track

We are in our six months now, the lawyer has started the paperwork and I'm almost done with the subsidy packet. The lawyer said the court date should be within three months and Miss E will be forever named...

Nanny... Fail

We hired a nanny who met some pretty strict guidelines. She went from coming a few hours a day to being a live in. When we hired her we knew she had a vacation planned. 10 days is a pretty long time when you hired someone to do a job that really isn't too flexible some days.

There were some red flags that have come up during the past few weeks... mostly they related to the need more Nannying less Familying... sometimes we allow people to get too comfortable and "laziness" comes out.... case in point the exchange student. Course that doesn't mean that we don't have high expectation for people that we employ to take care of our children... we do and I am pretty strict where that comes from.

Needless to say... the 10 days has been extended, yes circumstances arose that you'd feel obligated to assisit with... however, if you are only here two months.... and even worse make me scramble to find alternate care for our planned getaway because you are extending even longer... can you say gone a MONTH? Well... we WILL be seeking alternate childcare.

I have learned one thing though... I just can't do a live in... I need shift workers, back-up, and a clear cut contract with job description.


C'est la vie