Tough Decisions...Integrity Challenged

So old agency is causing trouble. They have "given the alert" and throwing questions as to why we are trying to adopt more than 1 child at this times. Hummm... sour grapes actually from them? But if it gets back to me they are saying anything about us, I will sue the freaking pants off of them. They have been already been making EVERYTHING difficult with the transition and blocking everything that they can try, from that Red File, to all of the updated paperwork that we just completed. Some of the paperwork I paid for, and they are with holding the originals because, they don't have to release it...blah bah blah! Whatever, I'll just go get another copy of it and screw them.

So what are the alerts? One was why were we pursuing another adoption so soon? Well because we were approached by them to consider it! I only said that I was only looking for him as a placement because he was referred to be by another foster parent who was in NO WAY looking to adopt him. She just thought he'd do well with us. I didn't know that he was adoptable and despite the vendor call they put out that that was the only route they were actively pursuing at this time.

Now his "team" is playing games, so despite their invalid concerns, and only because they are partnered with the old agency, we have removed ourselves from consideration as his forever family. Now this placement everyone was so excited about, is over, and this poor kids does not get a forever home. They kept asking if we could pay our bills without money from him, and wanted to see our financials. Well, having him and not getting a reimbursement is a moot point, because you do get one, and a subsidy too after the adoption is final. But trust me we spent and spend more money on Miss E than we have gotten for her, so yeah I can see us doing the same thing for him too. Miss E's money just helps keep the electricity on in her section of the house for things like her, vent, suction, feeding pump, etc... so yeah we need some help paying for the additional expenses associated with their care, and yes his would be the same. But the extras, like toys, dvds, clothes,things for their rooms, even supplies that are not covered by her insurance, like mouthwash, toothpaste, baby wipes, etc... well yeah we have to pay for those too. I mean come on people, having a parent available 24/7 for the expected and unexpected appointments with these kiddos is a HUGE necessity to maintain a CDH home, so yeah we do need the "extra" money to subsidize the loss of income from hubby now being a stay at home parent. So if that makes our integrity suspect, than FUCK you!


Anyway, we had to make a very tough decision regarding this, but I AM NOT, going to play stupid games with them. Our plan is to maintain an organic flow. If by chance in the future one of our placements fits perfectly into our home and we just can't see them leaving, I guess we will cross the adoption bridge again if it comes along. Until then, we are focusing on Miss and the foster process. I feel very good about this new agency... so there!